How Do You Know When To End A Relationship
You mull over the thought time and again - "am I in the right relationship"? or "is this the right person for me"? If you find yourself thinking a lot about ending your relationship, it might be because there are some lingering issues that you both need to address. If you keep giving yourself reasons to leave and not reasons to stay, it's because your not happy. I am not one to encourage break-ups but if this relationship is an hindrance to your happiness and it shows no sign of improving, I would suggest you find someone suitable to settle down with. Do not get caught up in the thrill of being with someone so much that you miss all the signs it's time to end the relationship
A relationship is a "test run" for marriage, if the relationship isn't working getting married wont make it work either. Why waste your time prolonging a relationship if its gonna fail anyway, yes - you have conditioned yourself and its hard to leave this comfort zone even though you know in your heart that it wont work. But the reason most break-ups hurt so bad is not because you are no longer together, but because of the time and effort you had put into the relationship and you realize it was all for nothing.
Don't be too in-love with the idea of being with someone so much that you allow yourself to settle, in light of the fact that when you are no longer lonely you may not want to continue compromising your happiness. And that's when the problems will arise, that's when your partner is going to tell you how much you've changed. Keep in mind that when one need is satisfied another need arises, your normal routine today may not be the same in the future. Relationships don't end without premeditated thought and if the concerns you had that caused you to question being together cannot be addressed, then it's time to consider ending the relationship.
People evolve as they get older or if their circumstances change, the relationship also needs to grow or it will become problematic. Relationships can be mended but even if it has reached a point of no return, you will still harbor some reservations about ending it. If you feel as if your trapped and your looking for signs whether to breakup or not. You may still want to give it a try, you're not sure if breaking up is the best option. But if one or more of the following can be applied to you then you may need to consider pulling the plug on your relationship.
A relationship is a "test run" for marriage, if the relationship isn't working getting married wont make it work either. Why waste your time prolonging a relationship if its gonna fail anyway, yes - you have conditioned yourself and its hard to leave this comfort zone even though you know in your heart that it wont work. But the reason most break-ups hurt so bad is not because you are no longer together, but because of the time and effort you had put into the relationship and you realize it was all for nothing.
Don't be too in-love with the idea of being with someone so much that you allow yourself to settle, in light of the fact that when you are no longer lonely you may not want to continue compromising your happiness. And that's when the problems will arise, that's when your partner is going to tell you how much you've changed. Keep in mind that when one need is satisfied another need arises, your normal routine today may not be the same in the future. Relationships don't end without premeditated thought and if the concerns you had that caused you to question being together cannot be addressed, then it's time to consider ending the relationship.
People evolve as they get older or if their circumstances change, the relationship also needs to grow or it will become problematic. Relationships can be mended but even if it has reached a point of no return, you will still harbor some reservations about ending it. If you feel as if your trapped and your looking for signs whether to breakup or not. You may still want to give it a try, you're not sure if breaking up is the best option. But if one or more of the following can be applied to you then you may need to consider pulling the plug on your relationship.
- The person you are with puts little or no effort in the relationship and the only one who seems to care is you.
- You constantly argue over the same issues, no matter how many times you have tried to address them.
- When you don't trust each other anymore.
- The relationship seems to be causing you more pain than it does joy.
- You are more fond of past memories and tend to live in the past rather than the present.
- When either of you expects the other to change.
- When neither of you feel the same way about each other.
- When you comfort yourself by expecting that things will get better.
- When you find yourself justifying the actions of the person you are in the relationship with.
- When the relationship is holding you back, preventing the both of you from growing as individuals.
- When your beliefs and fundamental values are different.
- When the reason you are together is because someone in the relationship is expecting the other to change.
- When either of you is causing the other to hurt verbally, emotionally, or physically.
- You feel disrespected, under-appreciated, frustrated, hurt, insignificant, lonely, invalidated, ashamed or guilty on a regular basis.
- You only feel secure in the relationship when you're physically together.
- If the only reason you are with this person is because you don't want to be alone.
- You no longer make future plans with him/her in mind.
- You fantasize about being with someone else.
- You can't see a future with this person.
- If you can't get excited about the idea of marrying this person.
- When you no longer have fun together.
Is The Relationship Ending?
Your needs aren't being met and you feel it's a small price to pay for love, but one day you will grow tired of this. It is better if you know the relationship wont last and choose to stay, but then again that wouldn't be a relationship it would be a fling. Once a relationship, except your compromises, is not fulfilling your needs it is destined to fail.
Some people were just not made for each other and when you understand this, leaving a bad relationship won't be as difficult. If you can't figure out where you stand with this person, it's time to stop standing and start walking. At the end of the day, its you who will have to live with your decisions. Never forget that!
Some people were just not made for each other and when you understand this, leaving a bad relationship won't be as difficult. If you can't figure out where you stand with this person, it's time to stop standing and start walking. At the end of the day, its you who will have to live with your decisions. Never forget that!
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