10 Secrets To Have A Happy Relationship

The measure of any successful relationship is if both persons involved in the relationship are happy. To enjoy this type of love you must implement in your relationship the secrets to a happy romance. All that matters in any relationship is that both of you are happy together. 

All relationships have their good and bad times, none is ever entirely perfect; you may argue and fight but that does not determine a couples ability to be perfectly happy in the relationship. To find true and lasting happiness in your relationship you must ignore the expectations of society, never try to satisfy or live up to the standards of anyone but yourself and the person you are in the relationship with. The happiest of moments in a relationship is often hindered by the desire to please society rather than doing what you are comfortable with, a relationship is for two and the happiness of you and your partner should be priority. 

Instead of focusing on whats going wrong in your romantic relationship or marriage, try applying these secret elements and enjoy a happy love life. The person you are with should not complicate your life, they should enhance it. 

The 10 Secrets To Have A Happy Relationship:

1. Have Trust 

Without trust, by either partner, you can never be completely happy in a relationship; and this trust is not limited being faithful. Loyalty is important but there is also a need to have confidence in your lover's ability to do whatever makes you happy. 

2. Show Respect 

Respect in relationships are compromised when either of you start to think that " I'm the most important person in this relationship ". Both persons involved in the relationship are equal, regardless of your job tittle or education level. A relationship should involve two people who respect each other, the is no point in being together if one of you thinks you are better than the other. 

3. Be Understanding

Don't mistake this with forgiveness, understanding is not about forgiving your partner for the things he/she has don wrong. Understanding is being able to see things from another perspective, trying to see the situation from the other person viewpoint. Relationships needs understanding form both partners, otherwise there will always be arguments and conflicts.

4. Support

As partners you need to support each other, you should be able to tell your lover anything and know that they will stand behind you no matter what it is. Support does not mean they will help you to ruin your lives by assisting you in your mistakes, it means they will also tell you when you are wrong. A supportive partner will make you better, build your confidence to do thing you would otherwise think was not possible. 

5. Chemistry

Without chemistry a relationship would be just like a regular friendship, lacking that desirability that makes your lover - faults and everything worth while.  This is what determines how long a relationship lasts, once the chemistry is gone then the relationship looses its ability to withstand the simplest of dilemma. In other words chemistry is "the feeling that you get when you feel that feeling that you've never felt before".  

6. Attraction

Have you ever noticed that the more you love someone the more attractive the person become,this is because attraction goes beyond physical. It is a combination of the mind, body and soul; all of which are needed in a relationship, you can't truly be attracted to someone unless all three are involved. Without that lure in the relationship then you will begin to loose interest and seek it elsewhere, and you know where that leads. 

7. Arguments Can Be Healthy

Yes, arguments are one way to have a happy relationship, the argument itself might not be a happy time but its important if you want to stay together happily. If you are in a relationship with no arguments, the relationship you are in has a lot of secrets. It is best to tell each other about the things that are displeasing in the relationship, let your partner knows what he/she does that is annoying. Keeping these things inside will only create resentment, so argue and clear the air to fix what is going wrong. 

8. Keep Your Individuality 

It is very important for the relationship and your happiness that you never abandon your individuality, never lose your individual self. You will both grow together and become more similar minded, but you still need to have your own personal identity. A relationship is a partnership, with two unique people who brings out the best in each other. Even though you both are wonderful as individuals, you are even better together. Never be anything other than the person your partner fell in love with. 

9.  No Holding Back

Love like you have nothing to loose, don't arrange a backup plan to turn to in case the relationship doesn't work out. You cant be truly happy if you keep holding back because of the expectation that things wont work out, and engaging you self in "what ifs". Give your all to the relationship by trusting your partner  and loving them unconditionally, this is very difficult to do because of the fear of getting hurt. But only when you get to the point where you can trust your partner wholeheartedly, will you be able to enjoy true happiness and love.

10. Avoid Over Analyzing 

Over thinking a relationship is the easiest way to develop doubts, thus distancing yourself  mentally and emotionally from this love connection. First you begin to have small doubts, that's left unanswered, that is developed into over analyzing everything about the relationship and your partner. This causes you to be blind to the good thing you have going, simply because you are too busy questioning everything your lover says.

If you apply these ingredients to your relationship over time it will become natural and effortless, at which point you won't need to try to be happy because when your together it just happens. You should however know where to draw the line and keep in mind that you are in a relationship to be happy, to smile, to laugh, and to make happy memories. Not to always feel hurt, sad and lonely.